Sunday, February 21, 2010

For Crying Out Loud!

Can married men please wear wedding rings?

Men, please understand that this request in no way implies I believe that you are unable to keep your marital vows without a band of gold on your left hand. I trust you. I trust your wife.

The shtick I have is being a single woman who respects and values marriage. Do you have any idea how uncomfortable it is for me to meet one of you who is mildly attractive, easy to talk to and in possession of a bare left hand? I might think to myself, "Eh? Not bad. We should talk more often," or maybe even, "I think I'd like to try a dinner with this guy." You probably have no clue those thoughts ever flittered through my mind due to my horrid flirting skills, but they're there.

And then I find out though some other means that you are married, and I feel like the "pus that infects the mucus that cruds up the fungus that feeds on the pond scum". I would never have thought those things about someone who is married. Even if it's Tiger Woods. I don't tread on the sanctity of marriage. But, in my mind... I just did. If you had been wearing a ring, you would have spared me this guilt.

Put it on. If you don't do it for your wife or for yourself, please... do it for me.


Angela said...

Great post ... needs to be shared out there! It is preventable awkwardness for both parties. And I think you explained the reasoning really well. I remember doing the exact same things before being married and wondering "Is he or isn't he married?" Or, like you said, assuming he wasn't married and then later find out he is = awkward. Ugh.

Melonius said...

my husband thinks that wedding rings should be tattoed on...

Mama Corleone said...

Vinny doesn't wear one...yikes! I had no idea this was an issue, but it makes total sense. I'll make him put one on, but only because you asked.